ISLAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY ONLINE
Volume 12, December 2009
St. Louis, Missouri

Editor: Mohamed Ziauddin MSW LCSW ACSW

In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent and the Most Merciful

Editorial:

As part of practicing Islam we need to be vigilant in terms of being away from drinking alcohol or abusing illegal drugs. We also need to be extra careful when it comes to protecting our children from being lured and exposed to temptations of drinking through various ways including the media, social circle that the children associate with et.c.

Consumption of alcohol has harmful effects on the individual and the society, some of the below verses of the Quran will reflect on the prohibition of Alcohol in Islam.

Surah 2:219

"They ask about intoxicants and greed of chance. Say: In both of them there is a great sin and means of profit for men, and their sin is greater than their profit. And they ask you to what they should spend. Say: What you can spare. Thus does Allah make clear to you the communications, that you may ponder".

Surah 4:43

"O you who believe! do not go near prayer when you are Intoxicated until you know (well) what you say..."

Surah 5:90

"O, Ye who believe! wine and game of chance and idols and divining arrows are only the abomination of Satan's handiwork. So shun each of them that you may prosper".

Below is an excellent article titled: Kids drunk in Cyberspace

KIDS DRUNK IN CYBERSPACE
(Patrick Moore. tech.yahoo.com)

"As the alcohol industry has effectively lobbied Congress and their advertising dollars feed the mainstream media, and little attention is paid to the very real and significant effects of their marketing campaigns focused on the youth market.

Big alcohol companies have turned to the internet and mobile devices to market booze to underage drinkers. They face some restrictions when it comes to television, since alcohol companies are supposed to limit advertising to thirty percent or less underage audience, but the online marketing projections are not measured carefully, so the weaker projections and enforcement make online marketing attractive to alcohol companies who want to get around established codes.

The Marin Institute, reports that big alcohol companies have found a new way to put corporate greed in front of the principles of "responsibility and service".

We should be spending our time worrying about something that really kills American teens: "Underage drinking". Liquor brands like Anheuser-Busch try to create a smoke screen by creating web sites full of kid-enticing interactive features such as games but then saying that the sites are for adults only. As the companies well know that the kids can easily access the sites.

A Georgetown University study reports on some sites, underage youths made up to a significant proportion of total visitors 58.6 percent on bacardi.com, 47.4 percent on skyy.com, and 34 percent on budlight.com. That's no surprise given that any teenager can bypass the ineffective age restriction and these sites by entering a 21+ date of birth.

The link between booze advertising, underage drinking and the progression to alcoholism, all wrapped in a huge emotional and economic price tag to American society, has been proven "study after study". Instead of feeding the media frenzy about sexual predators on the internt, perhaps we should be spending our time worrying about something that really kills American teens - underage drinking. (Patrick Moore)

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Islamic Psychotherapy Online

(Revised version)
Volume 11, November 2009
St. Louis, Missouri

Editor: Mohamed Ziauddin

In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficial and the Most Merciful

SUICIDE AMONG THE ELDERLY:
IMPLICATIONS FOR THE ELDERLY MUSLIMS.

Suicide is a major problem in the United States impacting individuals of different age groups. In terms of the elderly (age 65 and older), although they comprise about 13 percent of the U.S. population, they account for over 18 percent of all suicides. As indicated in the past, our Muslim Ummah is not immune from the contemporary problems facing our society in the U.S. today.

A significant percentage of American Muslims are immigrants who have been born overseas. Many of the immigrants, once they are settled down, consider it only but natural to sponsor their parents and bring them to live with them in the U.S.

On the positive side, both the parents and the children are generally happy to be living together again. The children have a feeling of personal contentment that for all the sacrifices made by the parents, the least they could do is to bring their parents to the U.S. and not only live with them but if possible show them around various local and out of town tourist places within the United States et.c.

However given the economic realities in the US where both husband and wife had to work to support the family, in many cases it leads to increased loneliness of the parents during the the hours of work of their children and in-laws. Many of the elderly lack fluency in English and this makes it difficult to communicate with the new social circle that they may have made in their local neighborhood. In communities where there is large Muslim population, it makes it easier for them to initiate and maintain contacts with other elderly persons who share their same language, culture, nation of birth and or religion.

As far as the socialization is concerned for the elderly immigrants, it is possible mostly during weekends, when in most cases the elderly persons would have the company of their children with them and have greater opportunities to leave the house either to visit their local Mosque, or to host or be a guest at parties, functions and anniversaries.

One of the realities for the elderly is that many of them have not just one or two but multiple medical problems and they have to deal with it on a day to day basis. It becomes more hard during the work week when they have no physical or emotional support during most of the day. In many cases, the children may call from work to see how the parent is doing, but it makes a difference when the same child is at home to assist the parent(s) with his /her multiple medical problems.

The extent and frequency to which the elderly parent may need the assistance from the children varies widely depending upon the severity of their medical condition. Many times the child may take off from work to take the parent on Dr's appointments or to hospital as needed.

At times the parent feels guilty of taking away the time of their child from work and worry if frequent such time offs from work may adversely affect the child's ability to maintain his or her employment in good standing. The elderly parent's guilt may be significantly impacting him or her but they may not verbalize it. This coupled with other ongoing stressors on the elderly may be taking a silent toll. It is always important to KEEP THE COMMUNICATION LINES OPEN not only between the elderly parent and the child but also encourage the elderly parent to reach out and contact other socially supportive resources in the area whatever they may be.

Too frequently the major stressor for the Muslim elderly parent may be the multiple medical problems. Besides the above, there may be other problems such as financial problems in the family that they are currently living and their own feelings of guilt of becoming a financial liability to their children, problems with not having insurance or having only partial insurance or difficulty making the huge co-payments for their medical expenses while being hospitalized or for getting their medications et.c.

It could also be relationship problems with the child or child's spouse (in-laws). Or to complicate matters, their medical condition may be worse to the point that they need to be supervised 24/7 which involves their transfer to a nursing facility Not knowing fluent English and feeling lonely and/or abandoned at a nursing home could further increase their sense of alienation from their traditional support system and also increase their stress level. If the multiple stressors continue with no resolution, very likely it may lead to depression and if left untreated it may end in suicide.

Not surprisingly, the most common cause for elderly suicide is depression that has not been treated. It is to be noted that about one third of the elderly experience depression. Before assuming the depression purely from a psychiatric view point, it is important for the elderly to receive a physical examination from a medical doctor to rule out physical basis for depression.

Some physical conditions may cause symptoms of depression. For example, thyroid disorders, diabetes, Parkinsons disease, multiple sclerosis, strokes, tumors and some viral infections may cause symptoms that mimic depression.

Similarly, some medications may cause symptoms of depression such as blood pressure medication, arthritis medicaton, hormones and steroids.

It is important that an elderly person who has gone through a recent and major stressor must be closely monitored. Some elderly persons may be in denial of their depression or hide their depresson for various reasons. Therefore it is all the more critical to watch closely for any hint of a suicide warning sign or depressive symptom. Elderly persons must be encouraged to seek help.

As Islamic Psychotherapists we call upon all Islamic Centers to ensure that they not only have a SOCIAL SERVICE COMMITTEE but also have a sub-committee that aims to assist the elderly Muslims by taking the following steps:

1) Identify the number of elderly Muslims in the Islamic Center's catchement area that are in need and willing to receive supplemental help from the Islamic Center. We use the word "supplemental" because there is already an assumption that the Federal, State, Local Govt and other private social service organizations are already providing the PRIMARY help to the elderly.

2) Assign a Voluntary Ansar (Case Worker) to the elderly Muslim who need intensive case management. We mean intensive in those cases where the elderly Muslim has very minimal support from family if any. The case worker can monitor the elderly Muslim by frequent and regular phone contact, provide ongoing referrals and links to other social service agencies in the community including (if needed) home health care et.c, Meals on Wheels services et.c. Last but not the least be of immense emotional support to the elderly Muslim.

It was sad to note during one of my earlier visits to a elderly Muslim in a nursing home who told me that that for the past several years, there was not a single Muslim that visited him. All of his relatives were oversees and his primary social support initially came when he was living in an apartment in the community and visiting the local Mosque. As his medical condition worsened to the point that he could not physically take care of himself and his medical needs, there was no option but to be permanently placed in a nursing home. WHEN WE TALK ABOUT THE UMMAH, it is here that we need to REALLY CARE FOR THE MOST VULNERABLE AND HELPLESS GROUPS OF PEOPLE WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY.

Anyone needing help to start above Social Service Commitee and subcommitee for the elderly at their local Islamic Center are welcome to e-mail us at below e-mail address and we will be glad to assist them.

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Islamic Psychotherapy Online

(Revised Version)
Volume 10, October 2009

St. Louis, Missouri

Editor: Mohamed Ziauddin

In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent and the Most Merciful

FOCUS OF THE WEEK:

Enhancing the Happiness of your wife

GEMS FROM THE HOLY QURAN:

(1) Surah Al-Baqarah 2:230

“And women have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable”.

(2) Surah Ar Rum 30:21

“And among His wonders is this: He creates for you mates out of your own kind, so that you might include towards them, and He engenders love and tenderness between you: in this, behold, there are messages indeed for people who think”.

(3) Surah Al-Baqarah 2:187

“…They (wife) are as a garment for you, and you are as a garment for them”.

(4) Surah Al Nisa: 4:1

“O Mankind, be conscious of your Sustainer, who has created you out of one living entity (nafs) and out of it created its mate, and out of the two spread abroad a multitude of men and women. And remain conscious of God, in whose name you demand your rights from one another, and of these ties of kinship, verily, GOD IS EVER WATCHFUL OVER YOU”.

(5) Surah Al Tawbah 9:71:

“And (as for) the believers, both men and women – they are friends and protectors of one another: they (all) enjoin the doing of what is right and forbid the doing of what is wrong, and are constant in prayer, and render the purifying dues, and pay heed unto God and His Apostle. It is they upon whom God will bestow His Grace; verily, God is Almighty, Wise”.

(6) Surah Al-Baqarah 2:231

“Do not retain them against their will in order to hurt….”

(7) Surah Al Nisa 4:128

“And if a woman has reason to fear ill-treatment from her husband, or that he might turn away from her, it shall not be wrong for the two to set things peacefully to rights between themselves, for peace is best, and selfishness is ever-present in human souls…”

(8) Surah An Nisa: 4:19

“It is NOT lawful for you to try to hold your wives against their will, and neither shall you keep them under constraint with a view of taking away anything of what you may have given them, unless it be that they have become guilty of immoral conduct in an obvious manner. Consort with wives in a good manner, for if you dislike them, it may well be that you dislike something which God might yet make a source of abundant good”.

(9) Surah Al Nisa 4:34

“Men are the (quawwamuna) support of women as God gives some more means than others, and because they spend of their wealth (to provide for them). So women who are virtuous are obedient to God and guard the hidden as God has guarded it. As for women you feel are averse, talk to them persuasively; then leave them alone in bed (without having sexual relations with them) and go to bed with them (when they are willing). If they open out to you, do not seek an excuse for blaming them. Surely God is Sublime and Great”.

(10) Surah Al Nisa 4:77

“Art thou not aware of those who have been told “Curb your hands….”

(11) Surah Al Imran 3:134

“…and hold in check their anger….”

(12) Surah 42;41-42:

“But indeed if any do help and defend themselves after a wrong (done) to them, against such there is no cause of blame. The blame is only against those who oppress in wrongdoing and insolently transgress beyond bounds, defying right and justice; for such there will be a penalty grievous”.

(13) Surah Al Baqqrah 2:217“Oppression is worse than killing”.

GEMS FROM HADITH: SAYINGS OF PROPHET MOHAMED (pbuh)

(1) “The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family:”

(2) “NEVER beat God’s handmaidens”.

(3) “O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women BUT THEY ALSO HAVE RIGHTS OVER YOU. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right, then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers”.

(4) “Your wife has a right against you and your children have a right against you. Give to everyone their rightful claims”.

APPLICATION OF ISLAMIC GEMS IN MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS:

In an increased Islamophobic era, it is all the more important for the Muslim husbands to truly practice what Islam is, in terms of their respectful and caring relationship with their wives.

A significantly large percentage of anti-Islamic propaganda focuses on the status of women and this includes the attitude of the Muslim husband towards his wife. This is an area of improvement for most Muslim husbands. Certain negative behaviors of Muslim husbands are more from their regional, national and cultural background than from Islam.

Unfortunately for the Islam bashers some of whom are myopic, they don’t see the difference. Nevertheless, it is the responsibility of the Muslim husband to have a sound knowledge of Islam in terms of the above and clearly be able to distinguish and separate out the cultural from the Islamic value system and practice what is Islamic and weed out the negative cultural practices.

Needless to say, one of the most important aspect of husband-wife relationship is the communication between them. Towards this end, it is important that the husband ensures that he understands and communicates with his wife in a way that strengthens their relationship.

DIFFERENCE OF OPINION will always be there in relationships whether it is employer-employee, husband-wife, father-daughter, brother-sister or between friends. WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS HOW ONE RESPONDS TO DIFFERENCE OF OPINIONS. Such a response may MAKE OR BREAK A RELATIONSHIP. Divorce and the end of relationship occurs not because of the common points between the couple but because of the way they or one of them responded to difference of opinions between themselves.

Areas of conflict for a couple may be due to a number of reasons and may pertain to finances, in-law issues, trust, parenting issues, career related issues, Islamic issues, domination and control issues et.c. It is important that the couple be clear to distinguish the areas that are WITHIN THEIR CONTROL and areas that are BEYOND THEIR CONTROL in terms of dealing with the causes and perpetuation of their ongoing marital stresses. It is strongly recommended that the couple invest their limited energy on focusing on areas THAT ARE WITHIN THEIR CONTROL.

In many long term marital conflict situations, it is the same conflictual issues that raise its ugly head over and over again in a cyclic manner. Unfortunately due to absence of seeking appropriate psycho therapeutic help and learning new tools to respond, the couple continues to respond to such cyclic conflictual issues in the same inappropriate and ineffective ways that they used in the past without much success. Not surprisingly, the same conflictual issue may temporarily fade away only to return back yet once again and further feed into the cycle of marital stresses for the distressed couple.

IT IS IN THE ABOVE CONTEXT, THAT ISLAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY COULD BE OF TREMENDOUS HELP TO ASSIST THE COUPLE TO LEARN NEW TOOLS TO EFFECTIVELY DEAL WITH DIFFERENCE OF OPINIONS IN A HEALTHY MANNER. SUCH TECHNIQUES ARE COMPLETELY FREE OF VERBAL OR PHYSICAL ABUSE OR DESTRUCTION OF PROPERTY.

Use the power of “good sense of humor”. Be cheerful as often as possible, have fun and enjoyment with your wife. Prophet Mohamed (SAW) would (have a running) race with his wife Aisha (RAA) in the desert.

The husband should also make himself presentable. Just as a husband wants his wife to look nice for him, he needs to realize that his wife also wants the same. Prophet Mohamed (SAW) would always brush with miswak before returning home and loved the sweetest of smells.

If you feel that your wife made a mistake and is wrong, instead of being verbally abusive or losing temper and using curse words, it is preferable that you remain silent and don’t comment on her wrong. On the other hand, when she does something good, don’t take it for granted and keep quiet. Instead recognize the good you observed in her actions, appreciate her and reinforce the same by thanking her. Being silent on her wrong with above positive affirmation on her good action, would very likely make her realize the difference. When Prophet Mohamed (SAW) would see something inappropriate from his wives – Radi Allahu Anhun, he would remain silent and not comment.

Affection can be shown by many ways including frequently smiling and embracing your wife. Prophet Mohamed (SAW) stated that smiling is charity and why not earn free rewards on a daily basis besides working to strengthen your relationship with your wife.

Call your wife by the sweetest of names. Prophet Mohamed (SAW_ had called his wives by nicknames that they loved.

As part of regular communication specially during changing phases of life and circumstances, ask your wife to write down the top five wishes she would love from you and try your best to implement it to the best of your ability.

Comfort her in the most challenging times to the best of your ability. Don’t downplay or ignore her inner most wishes and desires. Once Prophet Mohamed (SAW) observed his wife Safiyyah (RAA) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her and brought her another camel.

Marital life will have its challenges on a continual basis and a good communication backed with working towards common marital objectives will facilitate and make it easier for both partners to be able to work together on resolving such challenges.

(Husband and wife Justin Valanzola and Sarah Boyle read the Quran soon after getting home from work. The couple converted to Islam while attending the university).(yahoo.news)

Last but not the least; make regular duaa to Allah to assist you both in bringing lasting peace of mind and happiness in your marital life.

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Islamic Psychotherapy Online

(Revised version)

Volume 9, September 2009

St. Louis, Missouri

Editor: Hajji. Mohamed Ziauddin

IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, THE MOST BENEFICENT AND MOST MERCIFUL

WHERE DO WE DRAW THE LINES OF TOLERANCE?

EDITORIAL:

It is true, that Islam is a religion of TOLERANCE based on the teachings of Prophet Mohamed (pbuh) and the Holy Quran. On one hand all Muslims should strive for UNIVERSAL BROTHERHOOD and be tolerant and loving of one another. However when it comes to differences in lifestyles, including sexual orientations, the actions of the Ummah does not seem to reflect the degree of tolerance that Islam is ideally supposed to stand for. So the question is "Where do we draw the lines of tolerance"?

Based on Allah's command in the Holy Quran: "There is no compulsion in Religion", we are of the belief that we have no right to force our values on others. The least we can do to respect an adult human being is to accept them for what they are. Having said the above, if we do observe something that we feel is wrong, it is better that we work to address it in ways that is not overly critical, hateful, domineering, demeaning et.c. Trying to impact a change in anyone from the negative to the positive using the tools of affection, love, knowledge would be far more affective than using tools of force, reprimand, neglect, ostracism et.c. Any long lasting change COMES FROM ONE'S HEART and it comes VOLUNTARILY. As tolerant Muslims we need to take the above two into consideration.

We would love to have feedback from other Muslims in terms of their unique approach to deal with major differences that they find in the sexual lifestyles of other Muslims. Below is one example of a regular gathering of Muslims from sexually diverse lifestyles that do not include heterosexuals in GERMANY.

(The crowd at Gayhane, monthly party for Arab and Turkish gay men, lesbians and bisexuals at SO36, a Berlin nightclub) Berlin Journal

Berlin, Germany: (Berlin Journal):

GAY MUSLIMS PACK A DANCE FLOOR OF THEIR OWN:

“Six men whirled faster and faster in the center of the nightclub, arms slung over another’s shoulders, performing a traditional circle dance popular in Turkey and the Middle East. Most of the people filling the dance floor at the club SO36 in the Kreuzberg neighborhood were gay, lesbian or bisexual, and of Turkish or Arab background. They were there for the monthly club night knows as Gayhane, (hane means home in Turkish) an opportunity TO MERGE THEIR IMMIGRANT CULTURES AND THEIR SEXUAL IDENTITIES. Above event’s organizer was Fatma Souad a TRANSGENDER PERFORMER who was born as a male but dresses and appears like a female.

Gay men and lesbians from Muslims families in Germany say that they face extraordinary discrimination at home. A survey of roughly 1000 young men and women in Berlin, widely cited in the German press, found much higher levels of homophobia among Turkish youth. “These differences are there”, said Bernd Simon, who led the study and is Professor of Social Psychology at Christian-Albrechts-University in Kiel. “We can’t deny them. The question is how do we cope with them”. He added “The answer is not to replace homophobia with Islamophobia, pointing out that homophobia is also higher among Russian immigrants and in other, less urban parts of Germany.

Kader Balcik, a 22 year Turk from Hamburg, said: “For us, for Muslims, it’s extremely difficult. When you are gay, you are immediately cut off from the family”. He was cut off from his mother because he is bisexual. “A mother who wishes death for her son, what kind of mother is that?”, he asked, his eyes momentarily filling with tears.

Hasan, a 21 year old Arab man, sitting at a table in the club’s quieter adjoining cafe stated: “They would kill me. My brothers would kill me.” Asked if he meant this figuratively, he responded,” No, I mean they would kill me”. He added “I’m living one life here and the other one the way they wish me to be,” Hasan said, referring to his parents. He said he still planned to marry, but when he turned 30 rather than right away, as his parents wished. “I have to have children, to do what Islam wants me to do,” he said. “I would stop with everything in the homosexual life. I would stop it”. (New York Times 1/1/2008).

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ISLAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY ONLINE
(Revised Version)
Volume 8, August 2009
St. Louis, Missouri

Editor: Hajji. Mohamed Ziauddin

IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, THE MOST BENEFICENT AND THE MOST MERCIFUL

EDITORIAL NOTE:

GLOBAL UMMAH'S FIGHT AGAINST EXTREMISM:

The Ummah has been passive for too long in terms of not being frank and upfront with the extremist elements. Such passivity and silence had sent a wrong message to the extremist Muslims and further reinforced their distorted belief that they had the backing and support from the global Ummah.

On a positive note, we are now seeing that various Muslims and Islamic organizations are standing up to fight against such injustice perpetrated by extremist elements who advocate killing innocents falsely claiming that they are doing it in the name of Islam. In the process they are creating more hardship to the ordinary Muslim on the streets be it, Abdul or Fatima.

In Egypt, a new brand of young Muslims from a new generation are speaking up against terrorism and are successfully able to interpret the Holy Quran to represent peace, love and harmony among mankind. Below are two additional global examples.

Inshallah, the momentum for the global Muslims to assert that Holy Quran is a guide and masterpiece to guide humanity towards PEACE rather than BLOODSHED as portrayed by the extremists is already ON.

It would be good if Islamic Centers consider posting on their notice board a ZERO TOLERANCE to violence in the context of the Ummah’s opposition to killing innocents, regardless of what the cause is and to provide internet, phone and provider resources that could be utilized on issues pertaining to conflict resolution and ways to assist a particular oppressed individual or group or nation.

Anyone who strongly feels on a particular issue, should do so either by volunteer work to help towards the cause of such issue or exercise their strong commitment by using their checkbooks to sponsor an orphan or family on a year to year basis or to donate to other educational, social service related causes et.c. for that particular oppressed group or nation. Muslims worldwide are more than able to come up with hundreds of better suggestions than to respond by death and destruction in their intent to assist the distressed Muslims worldwide. ANYTHING IS WORTHY OF CONSIDERATION EXCEPT VIOLENCE TO SELF AND OTHERS THROUGH SUICIDE BOMBING.

The extremists had also unnecessarily dragged the peace loving Tabligh Jamaat in their actions. Because many of the Tabligh Jamaat members tend to wear traditional Islamic clothing along with sporting an untrimmed beard, they became visible targets of many western governments.

We know that in the United States, the government sent out secret agents in the form of Muslim converts who joined and infiltrated the tabligh jamaat and reported back to the government that the tabligh jamaat are NOT involved in any “cells” or “terrorist group”. Not surprisingly the US government had LIFTED THE BAN on tabligh jamaat’s activities.

HERE AGAIN THE ABSENCE OF ACCURATE KNOWLEDGE LEADS TO MISUNDERSTANDINGS AND SUSPICIONS. For example, one of the principles of tabligh jamaat before they go out on DAWAA work is NOT TO TALK ABOUT POLITICS. This fact is not known to many non-Muslims. One of the tabligh jamaat's basic principles is to avoid violence at all possible costs and in reality , they are one of the most disciplined and peace loving groups in the world. In summary, even such a peace loving Islamic group had come under the government’s radar screen for scrutiny, because of the horrific acts of the extremist group.

Misinterpreting the gems of Holy Quran not only apply to violence but also on women in some contexts. Below are two examples of Muslim organizations condemning terrorism in India and the United States and the last part of this issue has an example of how the gems of Islam were twisted to inadvertently create more hardship and difficulty for our Muslim sisters.

In as much as we stood up against misinterpretation regarding terrorism, we need to stand up against similar misinterpretation regarding women because trying to voluntarily crush half of Ummah’s (female) productive potential is like voluntarily diminishing half of Ummah’s human resources covering various aspects.

EXAMPLE: I

INDIA: Feb 25, 2008, DEOBAND (Uttar Pradesh, India): (Yahoo News)

OUTCOME OF CONFERENCE ON TERRORISM ORGANIZED BY DARUL ULOOM – Deoband.

Darul Uloom was established in Deoband, in late 19th century and remains a renowned religious and academic Center of Islamic thought and practice. In the sub-continent, it remains the largest institution for the dissemination and propagation of Islamic teachings and the biggest headspring of education for Islamic sciences. Followers of Deoband School practice Orthodox Sunni Islam. Deoband produced some renowned Muslim Scholars who resisted British rule in India, which ended with independence and the partition of the subcontinent in 1947.

“On the one hand terrorism should be condemned and on the other hand those who make accusations against the whole (Muslim) community should be countered because if the actual accused is not caught, then some innocent would get hanged. This will be our loss. ALL OF US BELONGING TO THE SAME (MUSLIM) COMMUNITY SHOULD COME TOGETHER TO FIGHT AGAINST TERRORISM AND MILITANCY,” said Maulana Mahmood Madni, General Secretary, Jamiat Ulmea-i-Hind, who was participating in a debate on terrorism and other Islam-centric issues organized by the Darul-Uloom in Deoband.

PARTICIPANTS:

Ulema (Muslim Scholars) from six thousand Madrasas (religious schools) were participating in the debate called by the LEGENDARY SCHOOL OF ISLAMIC LEARNING IN ASIA. Apart from representatives of Madarasas, the other participants are Ahl-e-Hadith, Jama’at-e-Islami and Shi’ah schools of thought and the heads, delegates of their Madrasas and the Rectors (Sajjada Nashins) of the Dargahs of Ajmer Sharif and Kichhauchha Sharif. Further the heads and representatives of All India Muslim Personal Law Board, Jamiat Ulama-e-Hind, Muslim Majlis-e-Mushawarat, Milli Council and the Darul Uloom Deoband’s Old Boys Association had also participated in above Conference.

Above organizers stated that they wanted that the DARUL ULOOM to take the initiative in stating that ISLAM DOES NOT SANCTION TERRORISM AND THAT DEOBANDIS DO NOT BELIEVE IN IT EITHER”.

‘WE WANT TO SPREAD THE MESSAGE TO ENTIRE WORLD THAT MUSLIMS AND ISLAM HAVE NO LINKS WITH TERRORISM. AND WE WANT TO GIVE THIS MESSAGE TO THE CENTRE THAT IF ANY MUSLIM IS ARRESTED IN ANY TERROR ACTIVITY THEN HE SHOULD BE TREATED JUST AS A CRIMINAL AND SHOULD NOT BE LINKED WITH ISLAM TO DEFAME MUSLIMS,” said Maulana Aadil Siddiquie, spokesperson, Darul Uloom, Deoband. The organizers of above conference REITERATED ITS DETERMINATION TO PROMOTE PEACE, NATIONAL SOLIDARITY AND BROTHERHOOD IN THE COUNTRY.

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UNITED STATES:

If you want to know details regarding the Muslim voices against extremism and terrorism, go to THE AMERICAN MUSLIM website at www.theamericanmuslim.org and you will find a series of article collections in the topic of MUSLIM VOICES AGAINST EXTREMISM AND TERRORISM, Muslims Denounce Terrorism, Quran and Hadith against extremism, Fatwas, Statements by Organizations, Statements and Articles by Individuals, A few quotes, THE MUSLIM MAJORITY WHO DON’T GET PUBLICITY, Muslims and Arabs in the U.S. Military, Selective Hearing of Muslim Voices Against Extremism, Sunni-Shia Unity Resources as well as many more collections on specific subjects including Resources for Responding to Claims against Islam and Muslims, and documentation of ISLAMOPHOBIA – Polls, Statistics, and surveys, alarming statements by year, incidents at mosques, incidents and hate crimes, media and propaganda et.c. If you want to keep up with Islam in America and topics of interest to Muslims in America and the West, above is the site to visit.

Below is an excellent note by the Founding Editor of THE AMERICAN MUSLIM (TAM).
“One of the most common statements made by non-Muslims is “Where are the Muslim Voices?”. We want our fellow Americans to know that the Muslim Voices are there, but they are being drowned out in the dim from those who see a clash of civilizations as inevitable. American Muslims know that extremists and terrorists don’t represent Islam, but our fellow non-Muslim Americans do not. The millions of Muslims in the US are indeed trying to communicate their disgust and opposition to extremism and to clearly differentiate between Islam and the actions of some Muslims. Our scholars have spoken out loudly and clearly, as have our national Muslim organizations, community leaders, and ordinary Muslims and still we are asked,” Where are the Muslim Voices”? We need to get our message out in every way possible until we are heard”.—Sheila Musaji, Founding Editor, Sheikh Mohamed Nur Abdullah, Religious Advisor. THE AMERICAN MUSLIM- Journal of Islamic Thought.

WOMEN:

MISUSE OF THE GEMS OF ISLAM:

Ban on women driving cars - “based on ISLAM or based on one’s TWISTING THE FACTS FROM ISLAM AS WE PERCEIVE IT”? You be the judge and decide for yourself as to what is truly the TRUTH.

This is what Majlis-Ul-Ulema from South Africa had to say about DRIVING AND WOMEN in their book “THE PIOUS WIFE” Page: 26-27.
(Reprinted word for word).

“Undoubtedly, for Muslim women to drive cars is contrary to the spirit and teaching of the Quran and Sunnah. The Quran Shareef commands Muslims females: “And remain within your homes and make not a display (of yourselves) like the display of the (time) of jaahiliyyah”.

The Quran and Ahadith place restrictions upon the emergence of females from the home. Islam exhorts and commands its female adherents to conceal themselves; hence Rasulullah said,” Woman is aurah” (i.e. to be concealed). When she emerges (into the public), shaitaan casts surreptitious glances (evil glances) at her.” Islam emphasizes Purdah – concealment – for women but western culture in a variety of ways and means (of which women driving cars is one) emphasis “self-expression” i.e. exhibitions of jaahiliyyah. Islam lays stress upon modesty and shame. (Hayya) whereas driving destroys the hayaa of women.

By means of driving, woman places herself in the forefront of exhibition. She barters away her hayaa by aping the ways and mannerisms of males in the driving seat. Her place is not in the driving seat to wander around, putting herself up for public gaze and display. Her place is the home – to live in dignity, respect, hayaa and honor. The greater her self-exhibition, the greater the destruction she brings to her natural modesty. And about this hayaa, Rasulullah said: “Hayaa is a branch of Imaan”. It is virtually impossible for a woman who drives, to observe the Islamic laws of Hijaab. Even if she is a bit conscious of Islamic Purdah restrictions, her constant projection and exhibition which driving entails corrodes her hayaa and reduces her to utter shamelessness. She then qualifies for the Quranic description of “tabarruje jaahilyyah” (exhibitions of the times of ignorance).

The argument advances in favor of women driving are all fictitious and designed to appease the lowly nafs of man. Those women who are observant of the Divine restrictions and prohibitions – those women who remain within the confines of Islamic Hijab will, Insha’Allah not be confronted with the fictitious ‘emergencies” and exigencies imagined and sometimes confronted by the women of exhibition. Those who have Trust (Tawakkul) in Allah Ta’ala will be well cared for”.

(ED NOTE: Dear Brothers From Majlis-Ul-Ulema, Thanks for spending your valuable time to write on above issue as part of your book “THE PIOUS WIFE”. With all due respects to you and appreciation for your eloquent language, I have some questions with regard to the manner in which the gems of Islam were wrongly interpreted and blended in your above note. I believe that I am not a loner walking in the wild on this issue and I suspect there are millions of Muslims worldwide who probably would be more inclined to raise similar questions as I raised on above note.

We all must try our best to avoid criticizing each other. Therefore while I appreciate your good intentions to contribute a guide for Muslim women, I am afraid that your advice may harm our sisters more than benefit them. Anything that would hurt our brothers or sisters would be a pain for us and therefore, we need to make a good faith attempt to address and if possible correct it to the best of our ability. Let above note from the brothers of Majlis-Ul-Ulema and the below note from the writer through this platform of newsletter be placed in THE MARKETPLACE OF IDEAS and let the UMMAH be the judge.

I say above because, many Muslims in the 21st Century have a very low tolerance for difference of opinion. The moment they differ, they immediately give the other a LABEL. For example, “He is a munafiqeen” (hypocrite). What is important today is the right of every single Muslim to assertively express his or her ideas. The Ummah should be tolerant enough at least to hear what one has to say. We can always analyze or discuss our response once we know the opinion of the individual. We should avoid making quick judgments based on stereotypes. For example, “Oh, after all, she is just a woman, from what she said, you know where she is coming from”.
EDITOR'S NOTE:

It is in such context mentioned above, that the important aspect of ISLAMIC PSYCHOLOGY steps in. Brothers of Majlis-Ul-Ulema, I believe your world view is totally disconnected from the present realities and your thinking is still anchored to history. In your world view, there are no “emergencies” and if any, they are “fictitious”. In your world view, all one has to do is trust in Allah and everything will be taken care of.

In your world view, a husband can never die before his wife, therefore the question of whether the wife would live independently and may need independent transportation would never arise. Your world view is free of emergencies, domestic violence and in a nutshell, no existence of single parent families, and that all household families are headed by a husband who takes care of hundred percent of the family’s finances and transportation needs. Although husband has gone to job in the morning and returns in evening, somehow transportation is arranged to pick and drop the children from school, husband does hundred percent of shopping using his vehicle and there is no need for wife to help with shopping if husband is busy and is unable to shop.

There are no broken families; there is not a single opportunity that may arise where the wife may need a car to commute. Husband will be in the best of health all the time and never be admitted at a hospital therefore there is no need for her to drive and visit the husband, OR there is guaranteed public transportation available between the wife’s home and the hospital.

This is ONE of many examples where good practicing, sincere, honest Muslims inadvertently distort Islam and not only create additional stressors in the life of the Muslim woman by depriving her of a basic transportational need that ALLAH has gifted to humanity, but also decreasing the potential productivity by fifty percent of the UMMAH thereby by default retard the optimal output from the global UMMAH. In simple words, we believe that their distorted world view has done MORE HARM than good for the UMMAH.

For example, in the real world, once a Muslim husband dies or divorces from his wife, how much more hardship will the wife have to undergone to become economically independent. Being in home and raising children all her life, she probably may have very limited income, how is she going to improve her educational standard, get a job with no prior job experience and how is she going to support herself and her children ?

WE BELIEVE THAT NO MUSLIM SHOULD PREACH ISLAM IN A WAY THAT DEPRIVES ONE OF THEIR BASIC RIGHTS AND IN THE LONG RUN LEADS TO INCREASED MULTIPLE STRESSORS. Instead we need to spread the golden message of Islam in a way that maximizes our ability not only to practice ISLAM in our personal lives but also to be a productive and contributing member, not only to our immediate family, but to the local community and society at large.

Even at the present time, although a Saudi woman is allowed to drive a plane, she is not allowed to drive a car. (There is currently at least one Saudi female pilot). Needless to say, below is an example of a step that was taken backward by abusing the gems of ISLAM i.e for women not to drive a car and thereby creating hardship for half of the Saudi Ummah. GOOD NEWS IS THAT SAUDI ARABIA HAS FINALLY DECIDED ON A PLAN TO LIFT ABOVE BAN AND IS WORKING TO IMPLEMENT ABOVE PROMISE VERY SOON. But who is going to compensate the thousands of Saudi women for all the hardships they had to face all along? NONE. WHO IS TO BLAME FOR THEIR HARDSHIPS?

On the other side, we are not advocating forgetting our Islamic roots and being obsessed with the contemporary times which symbolically is a combination of good and bad. THAT’S WHY ISLAM HAS STRONGLY ADVOCATED FOR US TO SEEK KNOWLEDGE, WHICH BY DEFAULT IS A POWERFUL TOOL TO ENABLE US TO DIFFERENTIATE FROM THE RIGHT AND WRONG AND PICK ONLY THE RIGHT.

INSTEAD WHAT WE ARE REALLY ADVOCATING is building a foundation on Islam but integrating it with the positives of the contemporary times. Needless to say blindly focusing on the contemporary times will equally destroy us, we need to gain KNOWLEDGE about the contemporary times and inshallah, with Allah’s guidance and blessings pick the appropriate positive contemporary KNOWLEDGE and combine it with the gems of ISLAM.

DISCLAIMER: We strongly believe that ISLAM is a religion of tolerance and it applies to tolerance to accept divergent and extreme points of view. Whether you want to send a supportive e-mail or angrily worded hate mail, we not only welcome and respect your opinion but would defend at any costs for your RIGHT to express it. TO US, THIS REPRESENTS ISLAMIC VALUE OF “TOLERANCE” IN ACTION AND NOT JUST IN WORDS OR FROM OUR SPEECHES.

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ISLAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY ONLINE

(Revised Edition)

Volume 7, July 2009

St. Louis, Missouri

Editor: Hajji Mohamed Ziauddin

IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, THE MOST BENEFICENT AND THE MOST MERCIFUL

Focus of the Week: ANALYSIS OF THE SUICIDE BOMBER – Part III

In Part I of this E-Zine's focus, we highlighted verses from the Holy Quran to support our perspective that SUICIDE BOMBING is wrong. In Part II of this E-Zine ,we highlighted teachings of Prophet Mohamed (SAW) that supported above perspective. In this issue of Part III, we are highlighting the same from a Social perspective, which includes ideas from Islamic thinkers.

Islam is a beautiful religion advocating universal brotherhood, peace and love among mankind. In the past two issues, the virtues of peace, patience and perseverance were highlighted. Muslims in some parts of the globe perceived themselves victimized as a national group who were going through severe injustice and oppression. They became increasingly desperate, felt helpless & knew fully well that they were no match to fight face to face against their enemies who were loaded with very effective hi-tech weapons.

Ummah – especially the Religious Leaders and Intellectuals were unable to offer such a desperate, vulnerable and helpless group of Muslims, ALTERNATIVE PEACEFUL WAYS TO DEAL WITH SUCH INJUSTICE.

There was absolutely no co-ordination between the Imams, Psychotherapists and other professionals from Behavioral Medicine, Communication experts and the Govt to work on a concrete plan to come up with ALTERNATIVE PEACEFUL MEANS OF RESPONDING TO INJUSTICE.

A vacuum in above made it easier for a minority of misguided religious leaders to win the following of a very small but dangerous group of Muslims and mislead such a vulnerable and desperate group to resort to the worst possible violence currently seen on the face of the earth by essentially blowing themselves and others around them into pieces of flesh and bones. They not only focused on the enemies but on their own members of Ummah as well, with total disregard to the loss of innocent lives including women and children. It is an issue not only of loss of lives, but also being responsible for making many innocents who survived such violence by becoming permanently disabled with loss of vision, limbs et.c.

Such Muslims unfortunately were misguided and deviated away from the mainstream religion of peace – Islam by resorting to violence, bloodshed and mayhem.

From a clinical perspective, most behaviors emerge from mind of the individual. If the mind is corrupted or misguided then its implementation in behavior would be misguided too and in the case of the suicide bomber, it would be destructive.

The above Editor argues that this is not only a issue of Muslims who were religiously misguided but it is also a CLINICAL issue that needs to be addressed by both Muslim Professionals from Behavioral Medicine and Islamic leaders, especially when it comes to developing alternative peaceful strategies that could be positively utilized by individuals and groups.

In general, when an individual talks about suicide or homicide, he gets evaluated by a mental health professional and if needed involuntarily hospitalized against his or her own will. ISN’T IT STRANGE, THAT WHEN A MISGUIDED MUSLIM TALKS ABOUT POSSIBLE PLANS OF SUICIDE AND (MULTIPLE HOMICIDES) BY INTENT TO BE A SUICIDE BOMBER, THE CLINICAL ASPECT IS COMPLETELY IGNORED AND ONLY THE LEGAL, RELIGIOUS and POLITICAL ASPECTS BECOME THE FOCUS? WHY?

In the process of such a response, two mistakes are being committed. (1) There is an assumption that he is mentally sane. (2) There is an assumption that he is following the teachings of Islam.

We never hear the fact that he is a wrongly misguided Muslim who misinterpreted the teachings of Islam. Why? Could it be because of lack of proper understanding of Islam?

Br. Jamaal al-Din Zarabozo in his book PURIFICATION OF THE SOUL had one of his topics titled as: “Jihad in All of Its Other Forms” he quoted the Quranic verse: “And those who strive for Our (Cause), We will certainly guide them to Our Paths, for verily Allah is with those who do right” (al-Ankaboot 69).

Commenting on this verse, Ibn Al-Qayyim wrote: “Allah has connected guidance with jihad….The forms of jihad which are most obligatory upon a person are the jihad against the soul, jihad against desires, jihad against Satan and jihad against (being overcome by this) worldly life. …ONE CANNOT FIGHT THE EXTERNAL ENEMY UNLESS ONE FIGHTS THESE INTERNAL ENEMIES. WHOEVER IS GIVEN VICTORY OVER THEM WILL BE GIVEN VICTORY OVER HIS (EXTERNAL) ENEMY”.

Hence, this makes it clear that jihad in all of its various forms is actually part and parcel of the process of purification of the soul as it is one of the means of success and prosperity which can only be achieved through the purification of the soul. (Karzoon, Vol 1, p.285).

As indicated above, a true jihad primarily focuses its energy within one’s self and not projected violently outwards and not for worldly life issues. One could argue “for and against” that occupation of land is a materialistic worldly issue and by default whether such worldly issue is worth not only dying for in terms of voluntarily blowing oneself to pieces but also committing double sins in Islam - suicide and multiple homicides? This by no means is indicative that one should be passive when attacked or occupied. Instead the focus is on exploring alternative means of resistance or opposition to such oppression and injustice.

Ibraaheem bin Abdullaah al-Haazimee in his Compiler’s Foreword in the book: “Diseases of the Hearts and their Cures” stated:

“The heart forms the foundation, it is the owner of the limbs, and the limbs are its soldiers, so when the owner becomes purified its soldiers become purified, and when the owner becomes sullied then its soldiers become sullied”.

Al-Haafidh ibn Hajr al-Asqalaanee, May Allah have mercy upon him and provide us with his knowledge, said:

“The heart has been singled out for this because it is the leader of the body, and through the purification of the leader the subjects become purified, and with its corruption they become corrupted. So if you, O servant of Allah, wish to cure your heart then it is upon you to be truthful with regards to seeking refuge with Allah and putting your trust in Him, to pray a great deal of supererogatory prayers, to perform the actions of obedience to Allah frequently, to pray the night prayers while the people are sleeping, and to treat your heart by making it continuously stick to the remembrances and by befriending only the righteous…and to frequently recite the Quran. And Allah will indeed allow all of this to be preserved by him”.

Compared above gems with our misguided Muslims who put explosives right in front and around the “HEART” to blow it up.

Such a barbaric act of suicide bombing by being blown to pieces is one of the worst ways for a person to abruptly die and here we have in the 21^st century a group of misguided Muslims VOLUNTARILY SIGNING UP TO BE BLOWN TO PIECES in such a manner.

Dealing with a potential suicide bomber is not to RESPOND VIOLENCE WITH VIOLENCE because two wrongs don’t make it right. To truly understand a suicide bomber’s motives, we need to understand his psyche and the perspective he is coming from.

From a psychological perspective, the “fight OR flight” response does not apply to the suicide bomber since he does both. Through his self-destructive act, he FIGHTS the enemy head-on and kills those around him and in the process he also takes a permanent one way “FLIGHT” away from this world to the next. Can anyone guess what would be the stress level of a suicide bomber?

POINTS TO REFLECT:

How many times have you heard Islamic peaceful alternatives offered in terms of expressing anger or holding it in? Is a Muslim responsible for his own emotions and acts or are other people, be it oppressors or any body else, responsible for his emotions? How can a Muslim more effectively deal with anger, resentment and frustration, no matter what the reason may be (including occupation)? Do Muslims feel stressed out by problems that others place on them or by problems that they place on themselves? How best can we integrate the contemporary psychological knowledge dealing with CONFLICT RESOLUTION with the gems of Holy Quran and Hadith to deal with current group or organizational stressors faced by the global Ummah?

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ISLAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY ONLINE
(Revised version)
Volume 6, June 2009
St. Louis, Missouri

Hajji. Mohamed Ziauddin

In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent and the Most Merciful

FOCUS OF THE WEEK:

PART – TWO

Suicide Bombers


NEED TO INTEGRATE BEHAVIORAL KNOWLEDGE WITH THE GEMS OF ISLAM TO SOLVE SOME OF OUR UMMAH’S CONTEMPORARY PROBLEMS.

THE UMMAH COULD BE DOING A FAR BETTER JOB TO EXPLORE THE DEPTHS OF THE OCEAN OF BEHAVIORAL SCIENCE AND COME UP WITH PEACEFUL & INNOVATIVE PSYCHOLOGICAL TOOLS TO DEAL WITH CONFLICT HOWEVER SEVERE IT MAY BE AND IN WHATEVER FORMS IT MAY BE ( FORCED BRUTAL OCCUPATION OF A NATION, OPPRESSION, INJUSTICE ET.C) EITHER AT A GROUP & NATIONAL LEVEL OR RELATIONSHIP CONFLICT AT AN INDIVIDUAL LEVEL (Eg. SPOUSAL, SIBLING AND PARENT-CHILD CONFLICT).

Since the EDUCATED MUSLIM PSYCHOLOGISTS, PSYCHOTHERAPISTS AND ISLAMIC SCHOLARS HAVE NOT TEAMED UP TOGETHER TO PRESENT TO THE UMMAH A JOINT PACKAGE OF PEACEFUL TOOLS TO DEAL WITH CONFLICT, IS ONE THEN REALLY SURPRISED WHY THE MOST FRUSTRATED AND DESPERATE EXTREMIST ELEMENTS UTILIZE THE MOST DESTRUCTIVE AND UNFAIR APPROACH TO RESPOND TO SUCH ONGOING CONFLICT BY RESORTING TO SUICIDE BOMBING ON A NATIONAL OR ORGANIZATIONAL LEVEL AND IN CERTAIN CASES DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AT A FAMILY LEVEL?

SUCH VIOLENCE UNDERCUTS AND STABS AT THE VERY HEART OF THE CORE VALUES OF THE MOST PEACEFUL RELIGION ON EARTH – ISLAM. WE ALREADY HIGHLIGHTED THE GEMS FROM HOLY QURAN IN PREVIOUS ISSUE THAT EMPHASIZED ON PEACE, PATIENCE AND PERSEVERANCE ETC.

Prophet Mohamed (SAW) stated:

“WHOEVER SETS OUT ON A PATH FOR ACQUIRING KNOWLEDGE, FOR SUCH ALLAH PAVES THE WAY TO PARADISE”. AL-TIRMIDHI.

Such knowledge includes behavioral knowledge. “Islam encourages the use of science and the scientific method. Acquisition of knowledge is obligatory on every Muslim, male and female. In Islam, science and technology should be used for moral ends and serve all legitimate needs of mankind. Moreover, the use of science and the scientific methods is viewed as yet another means to understand and see the power and glory of ALLAH”. (Introduction to Islam - ISNA-US & CANADA)

As Counselor and Writer Abdul Lateef Abdullah stated: “People can manipulate religious teachings to say (or mean) virtually anything. The practice is often done to further personal or group agendas. It is embedded deep within the very history of religions themselves including Islam. IN CURRENT TIMES, ITS MOST NOTORIOUS CULPRITS ARE EXTREMISTS WHO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE NEEDY, OPPRESSED, AND IGNORANT TO JUSTIFY TERRORIST ACTS ON THEIR BEHALF”.

Dr. Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi offers more than 60 practical tips for the “IDEAL MUSLIM AND HIS COMMUNITY”, which includes many (listed below) that are violated by the suicide bomber who exhibits OPPOSITE of below characteristics.

(1) He has a good attitude towards others and treats them well
(2) He is gentle towards people
(3) He is compassionate and merciful
(4) HE IS TOLERANT AND FORGIVING
(5) He is patient
(6) He strives for people’s benefits and SEEKS TO PROTECT THEM FROM HARM.
(7) He enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil.
(8) HE TRIES TO MAKE PEOPLE HAPPY
(9) He guides others to righteous deeds.
(10) HE IS EASY ON PEOPLE, not hard
(11) He does not oppress or mistreat others.
(12) HE DOES NOT REJOICE IN THE MISFORTUNE OF OTHERS
(13) He is generous
(14) He is hospitable
(15) HE PREFERS OTHERS TO HIMSELF
(16) He helps to alleviate the burden of the debtor
(17) He spreads the greeting of Salaam (peace)

Therefore the suicide bombers who are essentially “gross violators” of the characteristics of an IDEAL MUSLIM cannot claim to have made a SUPREME SACRIFICE under the name of ISLAM and even if they do, it is misleading. Such destructive actions just don’t add up to say it is EQUAL to positive Islamic behavior.

SAYINGS OF PROPHET MOHAMED (SAW)

(A) “Do good deeds with propriety and moderation and DO NOT WISH FOR DEATH; For one is either good and may increase in goodness, or one may NOT be good but could (change and) ask for forgiveness” Al-Bukhari.

(Suicide bombing is NOT a good deed and generally NO SUICIDE BOMBING would ever be successful without the individual NOT WISHING FOR DEATH. From above saying, the suicide bomber violates Prophet’s recommendations on two counts).

(B) “Happy is the man who avoids dissension, BUT HOW FINE IS THE MAN WHO IS AFFLICTED AND SHOWS ENDURANCE". Sunan of Abu Dawood Hadith 1996.

(A suicide bomber DOES NOT SHOW ENDURANCE. If he does, he would not proceed with his destructive actions).

(C) “Oh, Allah, Let me be GRATEFUL, LET ME BE PATIENT, AND LET ME BE SMALL IN MY OWN EYES AND BIG IN THE EYES OF OTHERS”.

(The suicide bomber is NOT PATIENT and has a distorted perception of viewing HIMSELF BIG IN HIS OWN EYES in terms of his extreme sacrifice that he is offering on behalf of the UMMAH, when in reality, it not only creates additional problems for the surviving members of the suicide bomber but also for the families of the innocent victims that lost their lives due to his act of self-destruction)

(D) "Oh Allah, ENRICH ME WITH KNOWLEDGE, ADORN ME WITH PATIENCE, honor me with piety, and beautify me with health (and a sense of pardoning)." Ibn an-Najjar.

(A suicide bombers act is against above wish for patience and destroys the issue of his HEALTH in a second).

(E) “ HASTE IS AN ACT OF SHAITAN”- Prophet Mohamed (SAW)

(Many of the suicide bombers who fear that they may be caught or identified do their senseless destructive act in HASTE. Who could disagree that it INDEED IS AN ACT OF SHAITAN?)

(F) “Oh, Allah, Let there be harmony among us; let there be affection between our hearts; SHOW US THE PATHS OF PEACE: guide us from darkness into light and help us avoid shameful deeds, whether open or secret”. Al-Hakim

(A suicide bombers act only brings more disharmony between the opposing groups in a conflict, destroys any chances of creating affection between the opposing groups, and IS NOT a path of peace but instead ends up committing a shameful deed)

(G) “He who sees an abomination must change it with his hands, and if he cannot then he has to oppose it with his tongue, and if he cannot do even that then he has to reject it in his heart”- Prophet Mohamed (SAW)

(Above is a very important saying because nowhere it says that he who sees an abomination should respond by violence and bloodshed).

(H) “He is NOT the best among you who neglects his worldly life for the sake of the Hereafter, or neglects the Hereafter for the sake of his worldly life, until he works for both. Realize that this life is a path that leads to the Hereafter, so do not become a burden on others”. IBN ASSAKIR.

(This is one of the writer’s most favored sayings of the Prophet. As you can see the focus is to work for both worlds. A suicide bomber through his irrational, dysfunctional and faulty thinking (details of which is for the next issue PART III of this newsletter) has voluntarily made a destructive decision to neglect his worldly life including his relationship responsibilities to his immediate family. A suicide bomber does not complete his destined path set by Allah in THIS WORLD and abruptly not only short circuits his life through violating Islamic values forbidding suicide but also the lives of innocent men, women and children around him through multiple homicides).

(I) Last but not the least, in his last sermon, Prophet Mohamed (SAW) stated:

“O People, Just as you regard this month, this day, this city as sacred, SO REGARD THE LIFE AND PROPERTY OF EVERY MUSLIM AS A SACRED TRUST”….”HURT NO ONE SO THAT NO ONE MAY HURT YOU”. ….”Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. …I leave behind two things, the Quran and the Sunnah (Hadith) and if you follow these you will never go astray…. All those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again; and may the last ones understand my words better than those who listened to me directly”.


Islam emphasizes on social justice. It opposes all those who exploit, oppress and deal unjustly with people and this is applicable at all levels individual, terrorist organization and State.

CURRENTLY THERE IS A SEVERE ABSENCE OF ALTERNATIVE AND PEACEFUL TOOLS THAT THE UMMAH COULD UTILIZE IN RESPONDING TO INJUSTICE AND OPPRESSION.

THE IMAMS AND ISLAMIC SCHOLARS ARE SPECIALIZED IN ISLAM. WHO ELSE COULD BE MORE SUITABLE TO CONTRIBUTE EFFECTIVE “PEACEFUL TOOLS” THAN THE MUSLIMS FROM THE HEALING ARTS PROFESSION, WHO IN THEIR PRACTICE TEACH THE CLIENTS “SUCH PEACEFUL TOOLS” TO DEAL WITH RESENTMENTS, HOSTILITY, ANGER, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIORS ET.C. WHY HAS ABOVE ELEMENT BEEN MISSING ALL ALONG? COULD IT BE BECAUSE THE UMMAH HAS SEPARATED THE TWO AND KEPT THEM APART?

IF THERE IS ONE POINT THE ABOVE EDITOR IS TRYING TO EMPHASIZE IN THIS ISSUE, IT IS THAT “ISLAM” AND “BEHAVIORAL MEDICINE” SHOULD NOT BE KEPT APART IN TERMS OF DEALING WITH CONFLICT RESOLUTION ISSUES. BUT INSTEAD BOTH OF ABOVE SHOULD BE INTEGRATED INTO ONE SINGLE ENTITY. THEN YOU WILL SEE THE POSITIVE IMPACT OF SUCH INTEGRATION AMONG THE UMMAH TO BE “ASTOUNDING”.

HISTORICAL PERSPECTIVE:

IN THE 1920’S MORE THAN HALF OF THE WORLD’S UMMAH WERE UNDER THE RULE OF THE BRITISH AND OTHER IMPERIALISTS. Later with the collapse of the Ottoman Empire there was a significant vacuum of leadership for the GLOBAL UMMAH for several decades. Many Muslim nations experiencing the fresh air of newly found independence were too busy trying to establish and consolidate their national, political, social and cultural identity.

Historically being tired from the ruthless oppression by the British, French, and other imperialist powers, THE UMMAH PREFERRED TO BE RULED BY ANY MUSLIM THAN A NON-MUSLIM. It is therefore not a surprise, as to why so many Muslim countries are led by dictators in one form or the other – either they are puppets of the West or they represent the extremist forces. Very few Muslim countries exist today that are truly democratic, for if true democracy be enforced by the majority, the UMMAH’s populous support would be on the side of MODERATION as our Prophet Mohammed (SAW) emphasized.

With lack of emphasis from the MUSLIM governing entities on seeking KNOWLEDGE from their contemporary times and integrating it to the gems of ISLAM, the way they dealt with difference of opinion was varied although most of them generally were non-democratic in their governing style. Little surprise the UMMAH had no shortage of ruthless dictators who used deadly force to crush the opposition especially in Iraq and Syria.

While acknowledging varied differences, in general, the tolerance to political dissent in Muslim countries was very thin and SUCH INTOLERANCE from the highest governing authorities CONTINUED TO TRICKLE DOWN through the different layers of society and groups and to this day, we find remnants of such SEVERE INTOLERANCE down to the people who create terror towards the innocent men, women and children.

The non-democratic and autocratic governments had laws in place to justify their actions as per their whims and Royal or Presidential decrees. The terrorists initially grew out of a group that was the most economically down and politically disenfranchised, besides being desperate, helpless and worst of all MISGUIDED in terms of inappropriate and false interpretation of the Holy Quran. Gradually their following increased from GROUND UP and went from lower economic group to higher economic group such as the doctors from the terrorist’s acts in England.

Such misguidance from certain leaders made the extremist elements have a FIELD DAY not only to “pick and choose” but also to “twist and modify” the Holy Quranic verses and hadith to suit their purposes to force their unrealistic view of the world and impose it on others. Blowing themselves up in pieces and in the process hurting others was a graphic expression of their terrible built up anger and seething resentments against whom they perceived as hard-core enemies.

WHERE ARE THE MUSLIMS FROM THE HEALING ARTS PROFESSION? WHAT ROLE THEY COULD HAVE PLAYED IN CALMING DOWN THE RAGING POLITICAL AND SOCIAL FIRES THAT ENDS IN THE ANTI-ISLAMIC PRACTICE OF SUICIDE BOMBING?

WHERE ARE THE IMAMS AND ISLAMIC SCHOLARS WHO COULD HAVE FROM THE VERY FIRST PHASE, CONDEMNED SUCH GRAPHIC ACTS AND CALLED UPON EMULATING OTHER PEACEFUL WAYS TO EXPRESS ONE’S OPPOSITION FOR WHATEVER CAUSE IT MAY BE?

WHERE ARE THE “LIBERAL” MUSLIM GOVERNMENTS WHO COULD HAVE EASILY CREATED TASK FORCE COMPOSED OF ISLAMIC SCHOLARS, IMAMS AND MUSLIM PROFESSIONALS FROM THE HEALING ARTS PROFESSION TO COME UP WITH A CLEAR PLAN AND RECOMMENDATIONS TO IMPLEMENT IN TERMS OF RESPONDING TO PEACEFUL MODES OF OPPOSITION FOR WHATEVER LEGITIMATE CAUSE IT MAY BE?

IN THE ABSENCE OF AN ACTIVE ROLE OF ABOVE THREE IN THIS AREA OF CONFLICT RESOLUTION, WE THE GLOBAL UMMAH ARE PAYING A HUGE PRICE TODAY.

With no significant leadership from Muslims who could INTEGRATE KNOWLEDGE FROM THE CONTEMPORARY TIMES with the GEMS OF ISLAM TO OFFER ALTERNATIVE FORMS OF ABOVE NEGATIVE EXPRESSION, ABOVE DESTRUCTIVE PRACTICES CONTINUES TO THIS DAY.

With no other creditable and peace-loving Muslim group armed with contemporary behavioral knowledge and gems of ISLAM available to advice the Muslims, the Ummah had no choice but to reluctantly and involuntarily be dragged by the non-Muslim world to be blamed by default to all the atrocities committed by a very small percentage of violent group of misguided Muslims.

The extremist forces have continued to have a field day but this may not last too long, since many EDUCATIONAL AND KNOWLEDGEABLE MUSLIMS today have been successfully able to INTEGRATE THE GEMS OF ISLAM WITH CONTEMPORARY KNOWLEDGE and are silently working to displace the extremist elements.

They are global in nature and from grass root organizations symbolically incubating and currently in a literal embryonic stage. The emergence of such long over due MUSLIMS and PEACE LOVING ISLAMIC GROUPS are expected, ALLAH WILLING to gain a wide range of support from majority of the GLOBAL UMMAH and will Inshallah win not by the unIslamic practice of blowing themselves up but by propagating their views in the global market place of ideas and respecting the wishes and differences of the people regardless of whether they receive the support from them or not.

DON’T UNDERESTIMATE THE VERSE: “The ink of a Scholar’s pen is more precious than the blood of the martyr”. NOW YOU HAVE THE ANSWER AS TO WHY ISLAM PLACED MORE EMPHASIS ON THE INK OF THE SCHOLAR’S PEN TO THE BLOOD OF THE MARTYR. A PEACEFUL MUSLIM WOULD ALSO WAGE A BATTLE AGAINST INJUSTICE AND OPPRESSION BUT NOT WITH BLOODSHED INSTEAD WITH INTELLECTUAL POWER IN THE MARKET PLACE OF IDEAS.

THE NEED OF THE HOUR FOR THE GLOBAL UMMAH IS NOT ONLY TO CONTINUE TO HAVE THE BEACON OF HOLY QURAN AND HADITH AS OUR SPIRITUAL AND BEHAVIORAL GUIDE, BUT ALSO TO INTEGRATE IT WITH THE REALITIES OF THE CONTEMPORARY TIMES AND SUCH A STRATEGY MAKES IT MORE PRACTICAL, FEASIBLE AND EASIER FOR US TO PRACTICE ISLAM IN OUR DAY TO DAY LIFE.

Holy Quran and Hadith are essentially a foundation and guide for the Muslims. They are the “battery posts”, “leads” and “starters” from which solutions to other worldly day-to-day details should emanate. The most effective solution to problem solve the complexities of the UMMAH in the 21st century is the one that has a combination of above Islamic gems as well as EXPERT SPECIALIZED KNOWLEDGE from contemporary fields of behavioral research. All Muslims readily use expert specialized medical knowledge for their benefit but WHY MISS OUT UTILIZING EXPERT SPECIALIZED BEHAVIORAL KNOWLEDGE?

So to all the Imams, Islamic Scholars and Muslims of the Healing Arts, COMMON, LET’S ALL JOIN OUR HANDS TOGETHER AND WORK TOWARDS WHAT OUR ISLAM STANDS FOR – P.E.A.C.E.

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